Your coaching philosophy is a reflection of what you most highly value for your players. It includes what objectives you want to accomplish with them and how you plan to go about accomplishing those objectives.
In developing a coaching philosophy, it is important to understand why your players are playing on your team. You will find that there are three basic reasons why any player participates in organized sports. They are to 1.) compete at a suitable and challenging level, 2.) develop as players, and 3.) to have fun. Every other reason for playing sports should fit into one of these categories.
Sometimes these objectives can come into conflict when certain coaching decisions must be made. For example, you may decide to keep an under-developed player on the bench for more time in order to have a better chance of winning a game. In this decision, you are choosing competition over player development. In another situation you may decide to have a fun, laid-back training session instead of pushing your players to work hard with challenging drills. In this case you are choosing fun over competition. None of these coaching decisions are necessarily wrong, however it is important that they fit within an over-all philosophy and plan.
It's important to understand which objectives your particular team values most highly. A recreational team will likely value fun over competition with an "everyone plays" philosophy, while a more competitive team will tend to value competition over fun with more of a philosophy that favors the higher impact players. One of the bigger challenges comes when you form a team that includes players coming from either philosophy.
This is where you have to put your foot down as a coach. You have to outline how you prioritize the three objectives and how you intend to accomplish all three.
Consider that the number one objective in youth sports should always be player development. The development of each and every player is always more important than wins or fun. When you have that down, most things should fall in place for you.
Be open with your team on how you intend to prioritize and execute these objectives. Convince them to buy in to your philosophy and support you in your efforts. You will almost always have a few people that you just can't please, but remain strong in your philosophy and the majority will follow.
